Nicci Morris

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My lifetime to-do list…

In Lifestyle, Zaftig-Approved on February 10, 2011 at 5:25 pm

It seems like just the other day I was prepping for Thanksgiving dinner (which I hosted – so much fun). Now it’s 2011. And February, at that…

Where does the time go?

I’ve never been one for resolutions, but I am all about introspection. I do my best to evolve and grow daily, not just every 365 days… When the mood strikes, I write a list of sort-of “to-do” list, sketching out improvements that I want to make for myself. I learned a long time ago that the only person I can control is me, so that is where I put my energy. I was going through an old box when I found one of these lifetime to-do lists. I wrote it in 2000. Interestingly enough, I’ve done most of it, but it still applies, if you understand what I mean. That makes me feel really good because I have no doubt that I know what is authentic for me and I am working toward living that, day in and day out. I had this list on my mirror for a few years and then replaced it with others. But there is something special about finding this piece of paper, soft and tattered around the edges, with faded words falling in the creases from years of shower steam and folding. I still remember when I typed it. I was an editorial clerk (the lowest girl on the totem pole back then) at a daily newspaper. I sat in that newsroom 40 hours a week, working from 4 p.m. to 1 a.m., and every single weekend and holiday. I knew there was more in store for me. And somehow, I knew I needed to make it plain and write it down so I could see it for myself. Here is what I typed up one night, all those years ago, and how I’ve been doing with the items on the list.


During another day of this incredibly blessed life, don’t forget to…

Indulge and bask in self-love. (working on it, every day)

Make time to meditate each and every day. (check)

Take out time to pray each and every night. (check)

Don’t settle for anything less than what I know I deserve. (check)

Fill my temple with wholesome, nourishing fuel. (check)

Go to the gym. (check)

Volunteer with a program geared toward helping young women. (check)

Finish up bachelor degree. (check)

Prepare for entrance into a distinguished graduate school. (Looking at MBA and MBA/JD programs now.)

Prepare to travel to as many different countries and continents as possible.

Take an ethnic cooking class. (I never have, but I so want to.)

Take an African dance class. (Definitely still in the plans.)

Finish “Epiphany.” (That was the first book I wrote, which I promptly put away many years ago. I blame my lack of confidence.)

Go to the park at least twice a month.

Find and attend writers workshops. (I so need to do this.)

Begin to read my poems out. (Gosh… I haven’t written poetry in eons…)

Keep my car organized. (I definitely need to do this!)

Fast once a month. (As a matter of fact, I’m due for one now.)

Clear emotional, physical and spiritual clutter out of my life. (Yes! I can’t wait to have a garage sale in the spring)

Pay all my bills on time. (Yes indeed…)

Visit loved ones as often as possible. (Very necessary. Phone calls might have to do since I no longer live close to family or old friends.)

Tell those that I love “I love you” whenever I can. (This is definitely something I do.)

Don’t go to bed with a heavy heart. (I have learned to let lots go.)

Write in my journal every day. (I’m terrible at this. You see how I’ve let even my blogging go, but I vow to do better.)

Keep my apartment clean. (Wow… I literally had 400 square feet of living space when I wrote this. I’ve been blessed with lots more space to keep clean now, and it is still a top priority. I firmly believe that the Universe will not give you more until you take care of what you have. I treated those 400 square feet as if it were a palace because it was my blessing in that season…)

Keep track of all bank transactions. (Thanks for making it easy, Chase!)

Don’t waste precious time on negative people. (Wow! I should have put that on here a few times! Such a good lesson. How wise of 22-year-old me?! Ha!)

Start drawing again. (I really should. It would be a great creative outlet.)

Buy some canvas and do a self-portrait. (That would be fun. I’d forgotten how much I enjoy painting.)

Take vitamin supplements regularly. (Perhaps I would be anemic and deficient in vitamin D today if I’d listened to myself back then!)

Surround myself with strong and loving people. (I have definitely been doing that!)

Eat out less and cook much more. (check)

Be more assertive. (And I wrote that before I really knew the difference between aggressive, passive and assertive. This has much more meaning now!)

Ask the Creator for exactly what I want. (Yes!)

Expect the Creator to give me exactly what I need. (Yes! Yes!)

Be thankful for all of my blessings. (Things that I have and things that I don’t have.)

Be more considerate to those around me. (Absolutely. That is huge…)

Return all negative vibes with positive ones. (Whew! That’s easier now, but still tough. Very necessary though!)

Don’t necessarily do unto others as they’ve done to me. (Some people/things simply are not worth getting upset about.)

Hold my head up high.

Never forget Whose child I am.

Remember that happiness is fleeting, but joy is eternal… and that joy is a journey, not a destination. (Yes!)


We are all works in progress and, from where I stand, that is a beautiful thing. Tell me what’s on your lifetime to-do list. I would love to know what inspires you and what steps you take to become the best version of yourself.

Be well…